The last two nights have been very interesting and somewhat intense. On Thursday night, when I arrived home, Melanie was very upset and depressed. We ended up talking for quite a while about happiness. On Friday night, after returning home from the Feast of Baha, we started to do some work on our finances. We discovered that in the 12 months of 2002, we only reduced our current unsecured debt by $5000 or so. This is a far cry from our goal of almost eliminiating it. Not only that, but our current debt has increased since then. We talked for a long time about how I approach our finances very optimistically and how that is very difficult for her. One thing that I understood clearly was that we have very different thresholds of fear regarding our finances. She considers almost any unsecured debt as fearful. I have only been afraid since June of 2001 when I lost a contract. Since then we have been struggling very very hard to get our finances under control. Moving twice has not helped 🙂 In fact, moving this last time, from California to Ontario, cost us personally about CA$25,000!!!! (A big part of that is because we could not get out of our lease in Daly City, but it doesn’t include the cost of movers since those were paid for by the company I have a contract with.)
Hmm… It’s been quite a while since I have had time to update my story here. I’ve been very busy. I found an apartment in Jersey City, applied, and I am now living in it. It is not yet comfortable: I just got a thin foamy to sleep on, and a small lamp for lighting in the living room. It’s a nice one-bedroom on the 15th floor. It has parquet (sp?) hardwood floors. It is also line-of-sight to a Starbucks so I’m hoping to set up an antenna and connect to their wireless T-Mobile service. Tonight will be my second night here.
We also moved from San Francisco to Toronto last weekend! Melanie did all the packing (even tho the movers were going to do it). We met in the Toronto airport on Thursday afternoon, rented a car (actually we got upgraded to a Jeep Grand Cherokee 4×4), and drove to our new place in Markham. It is brand new and really big (for us). It’s about 3000 sq ft finished on two floors with an unfinished basement. We now live very close to our good friends Chris and Jeanne. We are very happy to be back in Canada, and near to family (Alexei and Kristine) and friends. Today all our stuff came – Melanie has unpacked the kitchen so far (plus a few other things). I’m hoping that she leaves some for me to do when I get home on Friday 🙂
So I’ve still got a lingering cough from my flu two weeks ago. Justice also was quite sick with a slight fever and a bad cough this weekend. And of course Haifa is getting a little sick too. I feel very sorry for Melanie and the kids… It’s very hard to take care of sick kicks/be sick.
So I will end this entry with some more links: more about voting systems, someone designed a hobbit hole, some thoughts about Baha’i economics, and a good collection of links about unit testing and other XP stuff.